Before CHAPTER XLIII HOMOSEXUAL LOVE
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Westermarck, Edward
Conjugal fidelity, whilst considered a stringent duty in the wife, is not generally considered so in the husband. This is obviously the rule among savage and barbarous tribes; but there are interesting exceptions to the rule. The Igorrotes of Luzon are so strictly monogamous that in case of adultery the guilty party can be compelled to leave the hut and the family for ever,195 and among various other monogamous savages adultery is said to be unknown.196 The Dyak husband “preserves his vow of fidelity with a rectitude which makes jealousy a farce.”197 The Toungtha, who marry only one wife, do not consider it right for a master to take advantage of his position even with regard to the female slaves in his house.198 Nay, the duty of fidelity in the husband has been recognised even by some savage peoples who allow polygamy.
The Abipones, we are told, thought it both wicked and disgraceful to have any illicit intercourse with other women than their wives; hence adultery was almost unheard of among them.199 Among the Omaha Indians, “if a woman’s husband be guilty of adultery with another woman she may strike him or the guilty female in her anger,” though she cannot claim damages.200 In several tribes of Western Victoria a wife whose husband has been unfaithful to her “may make a complaint to the chief, who can punish the man by sending him away from his tribe for two or three moons”;201 and among some aborigines in New South Wales similar complaints may be made to the elders of the tribe, with the result that the adulterous husband may have to suffer for his conduct.202 The Kandhs of India deny the married man certain prerogatives which are granted to his wife: whilst constancy to her husband is so far from being required in a wife, “that her pretensions do not, at least, suffer diminution in the eyes of either sex when fines are levied on her convicted lovers,” infidelity in a married man is held to be highly dishonourable, and is often punished with deprivation of many social privileges.203
The duty which savages thus in certain instances have imposed on the husband is hardly at all recognised in the archaic State. The Mexicans “did not consider, nor did they punish, as adultery the trespass of a husband with any woman who was free, or not joined in matrimony; wherefore the husband was not bound to so much fidelity as was exacted from the wife,” adultery in her being inevitably punished with death.204 In China, where adultery in a woman is branded as one of the vilest crimes and the guilty wife is oftentimes “cut into small pieces,” concubinage is a recognised institution of the country.205 In Corea “conjugal fidelity—obligatory on the woman—is not required of the husband…. Among the nobles, the young bridegroom spends three or four days with his bride, and then absents himself from her for a considerable time, to prove that he does not esteem her too highly. Etiquette dooms her to a species of widowhood, while he spends his hours of relaxation in the society of his concubines.
To act otherwise would be considered in very bad taste, and highly unfashionable.”206 In Japan, “while the man is allowed a loose foot, the woman is expected not only to be absolutely spotless, but also never to show any jealousy, however wide the husband may roam, or however numerous may be the concubines in his family.”207 According to Hebrew law adultery was a capital offence, but it presupposed that the guilty woman was another man’s wife.208 The “Aryan” nations in early times generally saw nothing objectionable in the unfaithfulness of a married man, whereas an adulterous wife was subject to the severest penalties.209 Until some time after the introduction of Christianity among the Teutons their law-books made no mention of the infidelity of husbands, because it was permitted by custom.210 The Romans defined adultery as sexual intercourse with another man’s wife; on the other hand, the intercourse of a married man with an unmarried woman was not regarded as adultery.211 The ordinary Greek feeling on the subject is expressed in the oration against Neæra, ascribed to Demosthenes, where the licence accorded to husbands is spoken of as a matter of course:—“We keep mistresses for our pleasures, concubines for constant attendance, and wives to bear us legitimate children and to be our faithful house-keepers.”212
At the same time the idea that fidelity in marriage ought to be reciprocal was not altogether unknown in classical antiquity.213 In a lost chapter of his ‘Economics,’ which has come to us only through a Latin translation, Aristotle points out that it for various reasons is prudent for a man to be faithful to his wife, but that nothing is so peculiarly the property of a wife as a chaste and hallowed intercourse.214 Plutarch condemns the man who, lustful and dissolute, goes astray with a courtesan or maid-servant; though at the same time he admonishes the wife not to be vexed or impatient, considering that “it is out of respect to her that he bestows upon another all his wanton depravity.”215 Plautus argues that it is unjust of a husband to exact a fidelity which he does not keep himself.216
Source notes
180 Westermarck, op. cit. p. 122.
181Ibid. p. 125 sq. Supra, i. 472 sqq.
182 Westermarck, History of Human Marriage, p. 127 sqq.
183 Garcilasso de la Vega, op. cit. i. 305.
184 Gray, China, i. 215.
185 de Groot, Religious System of China, (vol. ii. book) i. 745.
186 Schrader, Prehistoric Antiquities of the Aryan Peoples, p. 391.
187 Dubois, People of India, p. 132.
188 Pausanias, ii. 21. 7.
189 Rossbach, Römische Ehe, p. 262.
190 Krauss, Sitte und Brauch der Südslaven, p. 578. Cf. Ralston, Songs of the Russian People, p. 115 (Bulgarians).
191 Mayer, Die Rechte der Israeliten, Athener und Römer, ii. 290. Bingham, op. cit. vi. 427 sq.; viii. 13 sq.
192 Tertullian, De exhortatione castitatis, 9 (Migne, Patrologiæ cursus, ii. 924).
193 Athenagoras, Legatio pro Christianis, 33 (Migne, op. cit. Ser. Graeca, vi. 967).
194 Gibbon, History of the Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire, ii. 187. Lecky, History of European Morals, ii. 326.
195 Meyer, in Verhandl. Berliner Gesellsch. f. Anthrop. 1883, p. 385.
196 Bailey, in Trans. Ethn. Soc. N. S. ii. 291 sq. Hartshorne, in Indian Antiquary, viii. 320 (Veddahs). Finsch, Neu-Guinea, p. 101; Earl, Papuans, p. 81 (Papuans of Dorey).
197 Boyle, Adventures among the Dyaks of Borneo, p. 236. See also Low, Sarawak, p. 300 (Hill Dyaks).
198 Lewin, Wild Races of South-Eastern India, p. 193 sq.
199 Dobrizhoffer, Account of the Abipones, ii. 138.
200 Dorsey, ‘Omaha Sociology,’ in Ann. Rep. Bur. Ethn. iii. 364.
201 Dawson, Australian Aborigines, p. 33.
202 Nieboer, Slavery as an Industrial System, p. 18.
203 Macpherson, Memorials of Service in India, p. 133.
204 Clavigero, History of Mexico, i. 356.
205 Doolittle, op. cit. i. 339. Griffis, Religions of Japan, p. 149.
206 Griffis, Corea, p. 251 sq.
207Idem, Religions of Japan, p. 320.
208Leviticus, xx. 10. Deuteronomy, xxii. 22.
209 Schrader, Prehistoric Antiquities of the Aryan Peoples, p. 388.
210 Wilda, Strafrecht der Germanen, p. 821. Nordström, op. cit. ii. 67 sq. Stemann, Den danske Retshistorie indtil Christian V.’s Lov, pp. 324, 633. Keyser, Efterladte Skrifter, vol. ii. pt. ii. 32 sq. Brunner, Deutsche Rechtsgeschichte, ii. 662.
211 Vinnius, In quatuor libros institutionum imperialium commentarius, iv. 18. 4, p. 993. Cf. Digesta, l. 16. 101. 1; Mommsen, Römisches Strafrecht, p. 688 sq.
212Oratio in Neæram, p. 1386. Cf. Schmidt, Die Ethik der alten Griechen, ii. 196 sq.
213 Lecky, op. cit. ii. 312 sq. Schmidt, op. cit. ii. 195 sq.
214 Aristotle, Œconomica, p. 341, vol. ii. 679. Cf. Isocrates, Nicocles sive Cyprii, 40.